asking a grieving person to feel better, just so you feel better for having comforted them, is less than appreciated. You are actively interrupting a process that happens organically in the soul. I cannot feel better, nor can I pretend I’m not changed from grief, for the sake of your comfort or ego. I can …

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A woman stands in a doorway watching sheets of rain fall from a poorly guttered roof. It’s the sort of rain that can be called a downpour; relentless in its assault on the city. She’s so used to the rain. Used to the way it soaks into the ground until the earth is saturated and …

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I am not being nice. I know I’m not being nice and I should probably find a way to be nice, but a good friend told me, “don’t be nice, be good”. I don’t think they meant “be mean”. I’m fairly certain they meant that nice anyone can do. It’s not an ethical dilemma to …

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Sometimes we need gentle reminders that we are still human. Today that reminder came to me in the form of overwhelming grief. It was okay. I lived. I’ll live if it happens again. Because grief is human. And it reminds us that we get very little say in when we will be taken from this …

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